Unify atenet -> atunnel traffic path #1208

Right now the ingress traffic paths in Substrate are a bit all over the place. Currently atenet can call into the atunnel in one of 2 ways:

1. :443 HTTP reverse proxy: parses and authorizes every HTTP request then proxies it to the actor
2. :444 CONNECT proxy: authorizes the CONNECT request once, opens actorIP:port, then ferries raw bytes bidirectionally.

It's not clear to me that we need the first path at all.

Parsing L7 on every request leads to worse performance overall, it is equivalent to an L7 sidecar vs the ambient model.

1. It leads to changes such as the following which make atunnel ever more complicated.
2. There is no current or planned L7 per request behavior we want to put in atunnel, and ideally we'd keep it that way.

Edit: One additional datapoint is that there is a design initiative right now to pack multiple actors into a single worker, see comment. The tunnel performance will become even more critical in that world.